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I have received a number of inquiries recently, some relating to sexual issues and others relating to financial issues.
It is clear that most people do not understand that these issues are related and it is also clear that there is not much understanding of the power of the one flesh bond, the sexual bond that comes into existence as a consequence of sexual orgasm.
These principles affect almost everyone on the planet excluding only those who have been truly celibate for their ENTIRE lives.
1. References
There are a number of references to the one flesh bond which is first cited in Genesis 2:24 which speaks of a man cutting (cleaving) into the cleft of the woman and the two becoming one flesh.
This passage is cited in Matthew 19: 5 and 6 where Yahooshua speaks against divorce.
1 Corinthians 6:16 warns against becoming one flesh with a harlot through intercourse because the body is the temple of the Spirit of Yah.
Ephesians 5:31 and 32 speak of a great mystery and equate the one flesh bond with the infilling of human beings with the Spirit of Yah.
All of these passages give insight into the subject but the total subject is much more complex than is at first apparent.
It is also widely misunderstood; in particular a one flesh bond is NOT a soul tie although it appears that in some cases Yah in His mercy answers requests to cut the one flesh bond prayed using soul tie language.
In the sections that follow I will set out some critical things that just about every person on the planet needs to know and which in my experience just about all believers and followers of Yah are woefully ignorant of.
2. How? – the obvious – sexual intercourse
In its simplest form the one flesh bond comes into existence when a man and woman engage in sexual intercourse and the man experiences an orgasm and ejaculates.
When he ejaculates he not only squirts out semen but he squirts out a part of his spirit which flows up the channel provided in the core of the spirit of the woman and attaches to her spiritual heart.
This is an unbreakable bond that can only be broken under very specific circumstances with very specific prayers that are only effective under those circumstances.
Where the woman experiences an orgasm she also ejaculates of her spirit over the spirit of the man to attach to his heart in the same way.
In spiritual terms the one flesh bond is an infinitely elastic and extensible tie that will tie the man and woman together even if they are on opposite sides of the planet.
The more times either or both achieve orgasm the stronger the one flesh bond becomes until in the spirit realm there is NO distance between them and they are no longer John and Mary but John-and-Mary as one spiritual entity.
Where they experience an intense simultaneous orgasm the one flesh bond will grow rapidly but even the weakest orgasm that is hardly felt physically will establish or add to the one flesh bond.
In spiritual legal terms a life time covenant {marriage} comes into existence when a man penetrates a virgin with the shedding of blood in which case a blood covenant is formed or, in the absence of a hymen {virginity} when male ejaculation takes place and semen or even lubricant, which contains salt, is transferred to the woman in which case a salt covenant is formed. The lubricant and ejaculate of the woman also contain salt. Where both shedding of blood and exchange of fluids happens then both covenants are formed.
The use of a condom does NOT prevent a covenant being formed.
In addition, with first ejaculation by the man an unbreakable one flesh bond is formed and the man and woman are tied together for life whether they are permitted to join in the sight of Yah or not.
Any human being can form as many one flesh bonds as situations give rise to.
Thus if the woman is in adultery the one flesh bond is still formed.
If the woman is a harlot the one flesh bond is still formed.
If the man is already joined to another woman the one flesh bond is still formed.
3. Why is it important?
Why is the one flesh bond important?
The following sections address a number of factors:
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Spiritual power
There is significant spiritual power associated when a man and woman have a one flesh bond.
If they are in a strictly exclusive (monogamous or polygynous) relationship where neither of them have ever formed a one flesh bond with anyone else or where the appropriate prayers have been prayed AND they are in deep harmony and agreement their prayers have a power and authority which is dramatic.
If they are not in harmony the damage can be intense.
However, this same power is available to two men who are one flesh with one another, or two women, or to a group of men and women who are all one flesh.
A group of people who are all one flesh are massively powerful spiritually if they are aligned and this is why Satanists and secret cults engage in partner swopping, orgies, etc to tap into this power.
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Spiritual damage – divided house – rottenness in the bones
Proverbs 12:4 identifies a phenomenon that it refers to as being LIKE rottenness in the bones caused by a contentious and fault finding woman {wife} who brings shame to her husband.
This spiritual phenomenon has a physical manifestation in terms of which the man feels terrible, weakened, angry, out of sorts.
Some wife beating results from women who do this to their man.
It is vital that there is a clear understanding of the role of man and woman in a covenant union and that both perform those roles properly, refer the article 2011.01.12 "Brother can you spare a dime?" for more discussion on this topic and the subject of financial lack.
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Spiritual damage – illegal one flesh bonds
The spiritual damage that results from an illegitimate one flesh bond or an unwise one flesh bond or from a man and woman who are not in harmony is huge.
If an anointed man or woman joins themselves to one who is not anointed the anointing will dissipate in the anointed one in order to flow into the one who is not anointed and there will be an averaging of the level of anointing.
Anointing is likened unto water – where there is a one flesh bond the anointing flows between the parties who are joined to reach the same level in each person.
If an anointed one joins themselves to one who is joined to others who are not anointed the anointing will drain out of them just like pulling the plug out of a bath of water – in moments they will lose all their spiritual power.
If an anointed one is joined to another and that other person joins themselves to another one the same effect will be achieved – this is one of the reasons why adultery is such a massive issue.
Note also that if a woman joins herself to another man, apart from her covenant man {husband} it is likely that a spirit of jealousy will come upon the man and he will become angry and irritable for reasons he cannot explain (Numbers 5).
So, if a man or woman is one flesh with one or more others who are one flesh with others they are joined into a spiritual network which will drain the anointing out of them and align them with all the evil that may be present in the others they are indirectly joined to.
Such sexual union only has to happen once for lasting damage to be done to an anointed one unless the one flesh bond is cut off.
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Financial damage
In addition to the problems mentioned above an anointed one who is one flesh with others who are not living with them and not in agreement will experience financial and other problems.
Even if a man and woman who are exclusively one flesh with one another are not in perfect spiritual alignment and harmony they will suffer financial loss.
The MORE INTENSELY you are seeking to serve Yah the WORSE the problem will be, it works in the reverse direction because the forces of darkness know they can use this no matter what the right standing of your life with Yah in other areas – a divided house WILL FALL!
Hindering spirits will gain a legal right over their finances and obstruct income, cause business opportunities to go wrong and operate in all sorts of ways to cause financial and material loss.
Hindering spirits gain a right the moment a man and his woman or women are not in harmony with him – the moment they are pulling in different directions spiritually.
So, where a group of people who are one flesh and align themselves in the same direction will experience great spiritual power so a group of people – two or more – who are one flesh and are not in alignment will experience great spiritual weakness and loss.
I have been corresponding with a man who is a deeply committed believer who is one flesh with a woman who he deserted in his youth and who has joined herself to another man and he cannot understand why his finances are under attack. Until he resolves the issues around the one flesh bond and either gains permission from Yah to cut the second woman off or she comes back under his covering and the tie with her new husband is cut off he will be operating under a financial curse and will suffer loss.
4. How? – the not so obvious
So, the one flesh bond results from sexual intercourse between a man and a woman?
– easy to identify?
– not really
a one flesh bond will come into existence if a man has sexual congress with a man, if a woman has sexual congress with a woman, if a man or woman join themselves sexually to an animal and orgasm occurs
– well most of you would not do that so that is not a problem?
– is it?
A one flesh bond is formed if a woman's sexual organs are stimulated by hand or another body part and she climaxes against that hand or other body part and the same applies if a man ejaculates against a hand or other body part – includes oral sex AND mutual masturbation, and …
– so what about your little dalliance as a youth?
– or???
But that is NOT all
A one flesh bond can be formed by the two parties being in the same room and watching while one or both masturbate to orgasm
– a very weak one flesh bond will jump the space between them
And that is NOT all
If you engage in phone sex or think of the other person or look at a photograph and masturbate to orgasm a weak one flesh bond will jump the space between the person masturbating and the object of their fantasy or thoughts
So those of you who though you were doing OK coping with your sexual frustration by looking at pornography or fantasizing about the woman or man in that advert or at work or at … have a problem
Refer the article on pornography 2010.12.01 where the believer in question was shown that he had weak one flesh bonds with thousands of women he had fantasized about and masturbated to orgasm while looking at their photographs in pornographic magazines and over the Internet!
And every one of these weak ties will at some level drain the anointing, give Satanists and witches spiritual links into that person's life, etc.
You can be certain that if you are joined to someone who is not in lifetime covenant with you and they are joined to someone else you are almost certainly joined to every witch, warlock, wizard, witch-doctor and Satanist on the planet.
The consequences are huge and the damage is dramatic.
This one factor drastically reduces the power and effectiveness of the body of believers and joins Father Yah to the forces of darkness through His Spirit in contaminated believers.
But,
this is NOT the only damage, if a man is joined to a woman in a truly exclusive relationship but one of them gets into demonic oppression, demonic anger, fear, demonic jealousy, rebellion, etc they join themselves spiritually to the demons behind that act and the anointing will rush out of the family unit because the Spirit of Yah cannot coexist with the forces of Satan in the same spiritual body.
So, if you are a single believer you need to be very careful about who you join yourself to and, once you are joined, you need to be very careful what you each get involved in and what you do.
Sexual intercourse is a powerful force for good in the body of believers IF properly applied but it is a MASSIVE power for evil where believers do not know of the above issues and get into one or more of the above or have been involved in such things at some time in the past.
5. Some obscure mathematics – 1 + 1 = 1
Genesis 2:24 is widely misunderstood.
It says the TWO shall become ONE
In other words 1 + 1 = 1
This is frequently misinterpreted to support monogamy in other words the man and woman are one and therefore there should only be or can only be one man and one woman.
It will be apparent from the above discussion that a man or woman can become one with any number of other spiritual beings because the mathematics is actually:
1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + 1 + … = 1
As many as join themselves together they all become one at some level in the spirit realm and so we see that barring people who have scrupulously kept themselves to a closed unit the rest of the world is in all likelihood joined to everyone else and are therefore at some level one.
So those who are serving Satan AND many believers are all one with one another – it is a tremendous mess and an abomination in the sight of Father Yah!
An extension of this point is that it is perfectly possible for one man to become one with a number of women in a closed family unit and create a very powerful spiritual unit, this is why families with several women when in perfect harmony are generally more prosperous than monogamous families. BUT they must make sure there is NO OTHER SIN in their lives!
6. Making love and committing violence (divorce / putting away)
We glibly use the term "making love" to describe the act of sexual intercourse between a man and a woman and think nothing of it.
Reality is that when a man and woman engage in sexual intercourse (actually when any two human beings engage in sexual intercourse with caring, loving consent) LOVE is created.
1 Corinthians 13 makes it clear that this love will never die, it can only be murdered, so once one has made love to another that love will live for eternity unless it is systematically murdered through treachery, verbal and emotional abuse, physical abuse, etc. This is why people remain in abusive relationships, the love is stronger than the compulsion to get out.
For this reason divorce (putting away) is an act of spiritual violence, it tears away one who is one flesh and it trashes the love that exists as a spiritual force between the man and woman UNLESS the marriage has truly been destroyed through treachery and there is nothing left.
Putting away just because it is not convenient is an act of massive spiritual violence and treachery.
7. Cutting the one flesh bond
Most people do not know about the existence of the one flesh bond but I find that when they have problems and I minister to them that the minute I describe the basic characteristics of the bond and how it is formed and the problems it brings they immediately recognize it.
Some people have some level of awareness and try and cut the one flesh bond by taking authority over it and commanding that it be cut, but they do NOT have that authority.
It is written that "what Yah has joined together let not man put asunder", this is an incorrect translation, the actual reality is "man is not able to put asunder".
Man has NO authority with regard to the one flesh bond.
Only Yah can cut the one flesh bond, either if there is a legal basis to cut it OR if in His Mercy and Grace he chooses to cut it.
And, the one requesting that it be cut needs to be absolutely in agreement with the request. If they are shaky and are just asking for it to be cut because they have been told it is the right thing to do but deep down they do not want it cut then it will probably not be cut.
Thus, if a one flesh bond was formed through sin and there is true repentance it will probably be cut.
If there is real treachery by the other party then it may well be cut, but Yah is the final arbiter in this.
It may help to have someone who is experienced and has an anointing in this area to pray with you.
But, if you are a man and you took the virginity of a woman and then left her for another you are likely to find that you have a problem. Yah will first require you to repent of your adultery (treachery) toward her by caused by your breaking the relationship and He may require you to approach her or contact her, declare your willingness to do what is right by her and ask her to return to you – no matter what your existing wife or wives may think of the matter!
In most cases like this the woman will refuse to return and at that point Yah may well grant a formal divorce but it is a matter of faith to walk this out a step at a time until she is restored or Yah grants a divorce.
The same applies in reverse if you are a woman who gave your virginity to a man and you are now with another man, the correct procedure is to approach the man who took your virginity and ask him to do right by you. If he refuses you are then free to ask Yah for a divorce but you, too, may need to walk a road with Yah on this no matter what your existing man may say.
Remember that if you are in adultery you WILL spend part or all of eternity in the lake of fire which is the second death (Revelation 21:8).
In both cases it may not be necessary to inform existing partners as in most cases the other party will refuse to return BUT you will have a bigger problem if Yah requires that they return and you have done the thing secretly.
I once ministered in a situation in which the woman had her virginity taken when she was 16 years old by a man who arranged for a hypnotist to hypnotize her, took her through a full wedding ceremony, white dress the lot, vows and consummation and knew nothing about it afterwards and married someone else. When she was in her mid-forties and agonizing about getting divorced, Yah revealed to her in a series of visions what had happened and told her to return to her husband (the man who took her virginity under hypnosis!)
If you have done all that Yah has required of you and He has shown you that He WILL permit divorce the prayer is along the lines of:
"Father, I come to you in the name of Yahooshua, I declare that I have a one flesh bond with …………. and I ask you for mercy and ask you to cut the one flesh bond"
In cases of pornography and lust you must first confess your sin and repent with a broken spirit and a contrite heart.
In cases of heavy petting and other acts that were not full blown sexual intercourse, again confess your sin and repent with a broken spirit and a contrite heart.
In the case of true adultery, where the woman is joined to another man and the sex was illegal, or in the case of a prostitute, or in the case of a man with another man, confess your sin and repent with a broken spirit and a contrite heart.
There is NO prohibition on two women having sexual activities unless they are the women of different men, in such cases the same applies.
Where a relationship is with an unbeliever AND Yah has clearly shown you to get out then the same prayer applies.
In all the above cases also pray for soul ties to be cut off and for all vows and promises to be cancelled.
Where you have "made a mistake" there is NO provision for mistakes, if you had sex you had sex and there is a covenant in place, read Deuteronomy 22. Your only recourse here is to go humbly before Yah but in my observation you are NOT likely to be granted a divorce UNLESS the other party point blank refuses to carry out their obligations as life covenant partner {husband or wife} in which case the blood will be on their hands.
Bottom line, do NOT enter into sexual covenant with anyone unless you are certain it is the right thing to do in the sight of Yah and do NOT engage in the use of pornography, casual sex, lusting after others, etc.
8. Sexual lovemaking – one of the most powerful SPIRITUAL acts on earth – an art
So, we see that sexual lovemaking is one of the most, in fact the most powerful act between a man and a woman. When they are in life covenant it is beautiful and set-apart {sacred}. Outside of that it is a massively dangerous spiritual act.
It is vital to understand that ANYTHING that is possible WITHIN that life covenant {marriage} relationship is permissible and undefiled, it is written in Hebrews 13:4 that the bed is undefiled.
It is entirely permissible to make love in any shape or form, to masturbate each other, to masturbate watching each other, to masturbate thinking of the other who is absent, to engage in sexual conversations and masturbate over the telephone when absent from one another, to masturbate looking at a photograph of the other. Nothing prohibits any of these.
Oral sex within the relationship when skilfully performed is beautiful and entirely permissible.
Anal sex is not prohibited but only a few enjoy it.
Everything that is sexually possible between a man and woman or women within a closed committed Yah fearing covenant relationship is permitted.
EVERYTHING that is permitted WITHIN that union is PROHIBITED OUTSIDE that union.
There is NO GREY ZONE, masturbating or making love while thinking of the man or woman at work is OUT.
It is so that sexual love making is an art.
Satan understands this well, this is why Satan has appropriated all the skills relating to sexual love making and made them available in a context of fornication and adultery and, on the other hand, has put prudish demons on believers who then treat sex as something dirty to be performed on the same level as ablutions, preferably with the light out and no expressions of pleasure.
The result, when believers discover that sex can be pleasurable they generally discover this in the context of fornication and they then walk away from purity and set-apartness {holiness} and consort with the world and get into pornography, then lust, then playing around and finally full blown adultery when they COULD enjoy the full range of sexual pleasures WITHIN their covenant relationship.
I have been considering writing a detailed, frank and explicit article on sexual technique to be distributed on request only. Please email me if you would like me to do this.
If you are in a covenant relationship I encourage you to learn how to enjoy sex to its full potential WITHIN your relationship, learn how to give and receive oral sex, put away all your inhibitions, send each other sexually explicit emails or text messages, talk about your sexual desire for the other on the phone when you are separated, etc.
You can have fabulous sex WITHIN your covenant relationship PROVIDED you both decide to do this. Spend whole days making love.
In doing this you will build a strong one flesh bond and a sure house and you will find it easier to be in harmony and your house will prosper.
It is very difficult to argue with someone when you are making passionate love on a regular basis.
If you are single then you need to pray to Yah to remove your sex drive until you find the right partner and if you are a woman you need to refer to the article 2011.03.01 "The dilemma of the Isaiah 4:1 phenomenon" which discusses the harsh reality that there are approximately seven times more women than men in the body of true believers, as much as 10 to 1 in some assemblies and that therefore every single woman is competing literally with thousands of others for every available man in monogamy. The best option in such cases is to pray to Yah to remove your sex drive and form some good friendships instead.
Conclusion
I hope this gives you some insight into the power of the one flesh bond and its implications, if you have a need for personal ministry in this area please email me.
May Yah bless you and keep you and make His face to shine upon you and give you peace.
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