2014.01.63.01 The Responsibility of Believing men towards single believing women Created by James on 4/28/2019 8:51:14 AM The Responsibility of Believing men towards single believing women
The Responsibility of Believing men towards single believing women
The following article was written in 1999, it sets out a fundamental principle that it is NOT Yah's will for ANY woman to be single OR be joined to an unbeliever or a believer weaker than herself
The article, based on the story of Ruth, evidences that believing men have a responsibility before Yah to bring single believing women under their covering
This will inevitably result in more than one woman being joined to one man as there are seven times as many women as men in the body of believers and amongst the believing women there are far more strong believing women than strong believing men
Around the time of writing this article I met men around the world who had been given the same message and also travelled to various countries around the world to meet some of them
I subsequently tried to put this teaching into practice until in 2009 I was in covenant with seven women concurrently for a short time
What I discovered VERY painfully during this ten year period is that modern, "western", Christian women, even strong believers who desperately want a believing husband, CANNOT share the man they have sex with with another woman
There is INTENSE social programming in favour of monogamy that results in a deep seated sub-conscious negative reaction from a woman who knows that her man is having sex with another woman, EVEN when she has agreed with the man that she WILL share, BEFORE joining herself to the man and EVEN when she joins herself to a man knowing he is already joined to other women
The result was that I got deeply hurt emotionally, developing one flesh bonds and love with a number of women and then having them walk out on me, generally with intense and hurtful emotional behaviour, some came back and left several times but could NOT handle it
During this period ALL the men that I had been in contact with got badly beaten up emotionally and eventually gave up trying to have more than one wife
Eventually, around mid-2010 I cried out to Father to release me from further attempts to covenant with the seven women He had asked me to covenant with and He released me to enter into a life-time monogamous union
I then proceeded to enter into a series of monogamous unions only to find that many women who were particularly close to Father were unsuitable as life partners because they had their own experience of Yah and views of how things should be done
It took me until mid-2012 until I met a woman who was prepared to seek harmony as an intense covenant condition, who accepted my history and who accepted my word that I would NOT under any circumstances consider any other woman apart from her, that I was able to form a stable and sustainable union
Accordingly I offer the article below to you with the following caveats:
1. If you are a single woman you ARE entitled to seek the covering of a believing man BUT it is UNLIKELY that any will agree and IF they do their existing wives will probably resist and EVEN if the existing woman DOES agree she will probably NOT be able to handle it and all involved will suffer great emotional hurt -- that said, IF all parties go into the situationwith their eyes open and fully understanding the ramifications of their actions it CAN work -- I know one family with two women where it has worked -- in a situation where the women are sexually intimate with one another as well as with their husband
2. If you are a believing man you WILL find the idea attractive, be warned, you are likely to get hurt so, IF you go into this go in with your eyes open and accept that if you try and do this to your existing wife it is almost certain that she WILL leave you
3. If you are a believing woman joined to a believing man be aware of this principle and understand that SHOULD you object to your man sharing you with another woman and you block it and that woman falls away into perdition subsequently her blood WILL be upon your hands -- AND in writing this I realize that you probably are incapable of sharing because you will NOT be able to control the massive sub-conscious reaction you will experience once your man has sex with this other woman -- my counsel to you is to find a way to be a friend to her and help her to adjust to a life style of being single and realize you will ALWAYS feel threatened by her at some level
Beyond this I do NOT have counsel for you -- tackle the situation prayerfully and ask Yah for guidance
If you are a single woman, I counsel you to commit yourself to Yah AND to life without a man, ask Father to take away your sexual urge or to enable you to fulfil it with another believing woman of similar maturity to yourself -- see the page on Single Believing Women
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