2021.11.05 The Essence of my Message Regarding the Virgins Covenant Created by James on 11/27/2021 2:33:13 PM
The Virgin's Covenant is CRITICAL to understanding sex, Marriage, adultery and Divorce.
One of the most difficult to explain human organs is the Hymen, the membrane that partially seals the entrance to the Vagina of a girl or young woman whose Vagina has never been penetrated.
It appears to serve NO useful purpose.
2021.11.05 The Essence of my Message Regarding the Virgins Covenant
The Virgin's Covenant is CRITICAL to understanding sex, Marriage, adultery and Divorce.
One of the most difficult to explain human organs is the Hymen, the membrane that partially seals the entrance to the Vagina of a girl or young woman whose Vagina has never been penetrated.
It appears to serve NO useful purpose.
In the day to day existence of someone who does NOT Believer in the Creator and does NOT seek to live life according to His commandments this membrane certainly serves no useful purpose.
However, once one understands its REAL purpose it becomes apparent that the Hymen is a critically important organ in the plans of the Creator for men and women.
The Hymen evidences that the woman has never engaged in sexual Intercourse and it is therefore safe for a man to join himself to her.
If she has already joined herself to another man and she now joins herself to a further man both she and the new man are committing adultery and, IF they are Believerrs, they will both face a period in the place of correction known as Hell after they die or could even face a death penalty in this life.
This is unless she is Divorced in the Court of Heaven.
When a man penetrates a true Virgin for the first time Blood is shed and ushers in a life time Blood Covenant in terms of which he accepts responsibility for the wellbeing of the woman for life and she accepts that she is one with the man for life.
Virginity is an extremely important gift from the Creator and must be given wisely if one is truly committed to serving Him.
There are prayers that can be prayed and measures that can be taken in certain cases where Virginity has been given or taken unwisely. These are discussed in more detail below.
Message for Believers only
As with all my teachings this teaching is ONLY for Believers. It is irrelevant to unbelievers although many of the principles still apply.
Virginity Testing is an Abomination in the sight of the Creator
As I was preparing to collate this article Regarding the Virgins Covenant I encountered a news report relating to “Virginity Testing” in which young girls (presumably Moslem since they were sent to Egypt) were put through extreme physical and emotional discomfort and humiliation to establish their Virginity – see https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-59391610 I want to stress that this is NOT the way that the Creator intended things to be and that such testing is an abomination. As a Believing man it is up to you to turn to the Almighty for guidance on whether to join yourself to a particular woman and NOT to rely on intrusive and humiliating physical examination by third parties.
If a young woman has lost her Virginity the man who took her Virginity has responsibilities as outlined below and if he is NOT prepared to accept these responsibilities he must grant her a Divorce in which case the procedures set out in the article on separation of man and woman in Covenant at https://www.eti-ministries.org/essence-of-message-separation-man-woman should be applied.
There is a key point here about girls who are truly Believers with parents who are truly Believers being instructed gently and with Love about the importance of Virginity.
There is also a piece here about recognizing the age at which a young woman becomes sexually aware and may start to desire sexual fulfillment, which is generally a lot earlier than the legal age for Marriage. Again this requires gentle and sensitive education in terms of how she can cope with her burgeoning sexuality without getting involved with a man. In such a situation she may need to learn to masturbate without vaginal penetration.
I want to reiterate that ANY form of “Virginity testing” is an abomination to Father Yah and should be avoided at all costs!
The different Virginal States
There are four different states of being for a woman which are recognized as “Virgin” by the Court of Heaven for the purpose of this document:
- True physical Virgin with Hymen intact.
- True physical Virgin with NO Hymen NOT ruptured through sexual Intercourse.
- Widow whose only husband is deceased – free to enter into a new union.
- Truly Divorced in the Court of Heaven where all necessary separation processes have been undertaken, see https://www.eti-ministries.org/essence-of-message-separation-man-woman
Apart from the above all other forms of first Intercourse are adultery and carry a death penalty or, at the very least, time in Hell for Believers.
There is NO such thing as sex before Marriage
I keep encountering people who talk about "sex before Marriage" as though there IS such a thing.
Fact is that before Daddy Yah there is either:
- Sexual Intercourse with a Virgin, Widow or truly Divorced woman which equals a lifetime Covenant before Yah, which approximates this pagan thing we call Marriage but can take place with many women to one man and does NOT require any legal document or manmade ceremony.
- The same following some form of ceremony or public taking of vows, etcetera – which hardly ever happens today, generally the couple have Intercourse before the ceremony.
- Sexual Intercourse with any other woman is adultery and if she has had multiple partners, fornication – the vast majority of legal / church Marriages today – guaranteed a time in Hell unless repented of and cleaned up – where many Believers are headed unless they are told the truth and come to repentance (and, by the way, a part in Hell for the Believing Pastor or Magistrate or other person who performs the ceremony and purports to stand in the place of Yah.
That is it folks, NO other options. I hope this gives you clarity on the sex before Marriage issue.
Cleave is NOT adhere
One of the most obviously false teachings is that the word “cleave” in Genesis where it is written “for this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and cleave unto his woman” means “adhere” or “stick” or similar.
Cleave means “to part” or “to cut”.
A gemstone may have a plane of cleavage such that if we strike a sharp blow to a sharp instrument placed on that plane the gemstone will split open.
Women have a “cleavage” – a cleft between their breasts.
Butchers use “meat cleavers” -- large cutting blades that they use to cleave (cut) the meat into portions.
How does the word “cleave” then mean “adhere”?
It means “adhere” because Christianity has lost sight of the true meaning and the true meaning nullifies what the church teaches and practices.
A woman has another cleft, it is between her legs and it is OBVIOUSLY a cleft, that cleft has the outward appearance of a wound cut with a knife or cleaver and when that cleft is first penetrated – that is “cleaved” -- Blood is shed.
That organ exactly replicates the Covenant act of splitting open the Covenant animal and walking in the Blood that signifies the formation of a Covenant and which signifies that there is a DEATH PENALTY for breaking Covenant.
Inherently this means that a Blood Covenant is cut between a man who cleaves into a woman with the shedding of Blood and that therefore sexual Intercourse always was and always will be the act of cutting Covenant and repeated Intercourse is a rehearsal of the act of cutting Covenant.
This silence of the church on the sanctity and importance of Virginity is compounded by verbiage that associates “cleave” with “adhere” which is necessary because the church lies about Virginity and pretends that the “Pastor” or “Priest” has some authority to pronounce on a Covenant union {Marriage}.
Sexual Intercourse is a sacred, Covenant act and should be treated as such. Yes, it can give great pleasure but first and foremost it is a Covenant act. Labelling it “adhere” or “stick to” is absolutely NOT valid.
The Virgin’s Covenant
I am periodically contacted by women Believers who are in abusive Marriages / relationships asking what they should do
In each case, on inquiry, it turns out that the man who took their Virginity was NOT the man they are married to / in relationship with. Sometimes they are even still in contact with the man who took their Virginity.
The simple answer in many cases is that, notwithstanding whatever church or civil Marriage rite they may have been through with their present man {husband} they were still in Covenant with the first man in the sight of Yah AND in the sight of the spirit world and therefore they were in adultery with the man they called “husband” or partner with the result that spiritually these men were entitled to treat them roughly because they were legally regarded as whores in the spirit realm AND the Satanic and specifically demonic realm therefore had full rights to attack their unions and the women
The further, theoretically simple answer is that they should return to the man who took their Virginity.
The problem with this answer is that our society does NOT understand it or agree with it and, in one case it would have meant the man having two women because he was living with another woman whose Virginity he had ALSO taken and there was NO way that other woman was going to “share her husband”
In another case it turned out that the woman left her Covenant man, the man to whom she gave her Virginity, because he was NOT to her liking and did not measure up to her standards religiously and in other ways, the problem is, that in terms of Covenant that is NOT acceptable!
Why do I say all this?
Very simply, Yah created women with a Hymen, a thin membrane that partially covers the entrance to the Vagina. In most instances it is necessary to rupture the Hymen in order to have sexual Intercourse with full penetration.
When this happens Blood is generally shed.
There ARE exceptions, particularly with older women and with women who have engaged in strenuous sports or women who have inserted absorbent items in their Vagina during menstruation.
However, the fundamental principle is that Yah created women to bleed when they first have sexual Intercourse with Vaginal penetration.
Once the Hymen is ruptured it CANNOT heal and it is therefore only possible for a woman to give her Virginity and shed Blood once.
The Hymen is therefore a form of safety seal which evidences that a woman is a Virgin.
This is critical because the shedding of Blood is a fundamental component of entering into Covenant and so, we see, that Yah created women with the fundamental intent of women Covenanting with their man and, since they can only shed Blood once, of Covenanting with ONLY one man.
On the other hand males have NO corresponding seal.
A man can take the Virginity of any number of women and there is NO evidence that he has done this.
Accordingly it is evident that Yah created men that they might Covenant with more than one woman.
The fact that our society, or certainly Eurocentric society, is unable to accept this and that social and demonic programming has produced generations of Christian and Western women who cannot conceive of or tolerate the possibility of sharing their man is a harsh reality which gives rise to a situation where it is extremely inadvisable for a man to try and enter into Covenant with more than one woman UNLESS those women all voluntarily and willingly ask him to do this. See the case studies in the Appendix at the end of the article “The Essence of my Message Regarding Sex” at https://www.eti-ministries.org/essence-of-my-message-regarding-sex for cases where it seems this might work.
Insofar as this article is NOT about the merits and fundamental reality that Yah created men to be in Covenant with a number of women I will NOT discuss this further in this article – there are a number of articles on the website that discuss this topic in much more detail.
My main point is that sexual Intercourse with a Virgin IS a Covenant act and that, whether we like it or not, at the moment that Blood is shed a Covenant is entered into that is INTENDED to be unbreakable and for life.
The only basis for severance of the Covenant is extreme treachery by one of the parties which includes, but is NOT limited to adultery, that is the woman having sexual Intercourse with another man.
Note that consummation during menstrual flow defiles the Covenant, that is NOT “safe sex” – Yah forbids Intercourse during menstrual flow and for some time before and after.
In practice based on humble supplication Yah MAY grant Grace such that a severance of the Covenant (Divorce) MAY be granted under particular circumstances such that the woman may enter into Covenant with another man through sexual Intercourse in the form of ejaculation in the Vagina by the man -- no shedding of Blood but the semen contains all the genetic elements of Blood as well as containing salt and so a form of Blood Covenant and a salt Covenant are entered into – note that these elements are ALSO present in the Covenant with a Virgin.
To better understand this discussion it is important to know that the reason that there is ALWAYS Blood in the consummation of a Covenant, whether sexually with a Virgin or any other form of Covenant, is that the terms of the Covenant are fundamentally “if you break this Covenant you will DIE” – see http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/247/2011-01-06-The-Blood-of-any-Covenant-means-death-to-those-who-break-it.aspx
Thus, in strict terms the ONLY basis for being released from a Covenant is if one partner dies or commits a sin that leads to death at a level that is BEYOND repentance.
In any situation less than this the Covenant may NOT be set aside by the Court of Heaven.
In addition to this, there are very specific terms that Yah prescribes for the Covenant between a man and a woman through the shedding of the Virgin’s Blood that CAN be overridden ONLY by agreement BEFORE the Blood is shed.
These terms can be understood through the example set by Yahooshua and what is set out in Ephesians 5 and elsewhere:
MAN:
- lead your woman closer to Yah a fundamental principle is that the man should ALWAYS be manifestly closer to Yah than the woman else when she looks to her man she looks away from Yah.
- Love her even if she beats you, flogs you and nails you to a stake.
- treat her gently and tenderly.
- make Love to her tenderly and skilfully.
- accept her the way she is when you Covenant with her and do NOT try and change her.
- comply with any specific terms you may have agreed BEFORE consummation (additional terms are NOT necessary) – the previous terms apply UNLESS you contract OUT BEFORE consummation.
- most women today would want their man to agree to monogamy, the default terms do NOT include monogamy, they include polygyny, more than one woman with one man – it is important to be absolutely clear on this point BEFORE consummation – if he is having sex with other women at the time that he consummates with you do NOT be surprised when he continues to do this subsequently AND you will have no basis to complain UNLESS you Covenanted exclusive monogamy.
- break this Covenant and you will die – through Grace in this age this clause is mitigated in most but NOT all cases.
WOMAN:
- follow your man wherever he goes and promote him towards Yah.
- Love him and submit to him in EVERYTHING even if he requires you to be beaten, flogged and nailed to a stake.
- support him and work with him in all his endeavours.
- bear his children and raise them.
- make Love to him passionately and skilfully.
- keep yourself to him only sexually.
- accept him the way he is when you Covenant with him and do NOT try and change him – if he was in the habit of getting drunk before you consummated accept that he will get drunk again.
- comply with any specific terms you may have agreed BEFORE consummation (additional terms are NOT necessary) – the previous terms apply UNLESS you contract OUT BEFORE consummation.
- break this Covenant and you will die – again mitigated through Grace most times in the present generation, but I DO know of cases where a person has died for breaking Covenant.
NOTICE that there is NO way out.
No way to say, “BUT he …” or “BUT she …”
Once you have entered into Covenant you are in it literally “until death do us part”, be it physical death or be it spiritual death.
Over the years I have heard ALL sorts of exclamations about how unjust this is.
Fact is, it is only unjust BECAUSE we have been LIED TO comprehensively and people just think they are having a good time because they Loved or lusted one another, IF they had known the truth it is likely that most men and women would NOT have taken and given Virginity nearly so easily and mostly NOT to the person that they did.
IF one understands Covenant one will make ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN before one engages in sexual Intercourse and will evaluate the other party and establish exactly what they stand for and what they Believe. The parties will agree any terms he consider important and she considers important, they will EXCLUDE any of the terms above they do NOT agree with.
Understand that the parties accept each other with ALL their undisclosed weaknesses, addictions, vices, etc so they should pray and MAKE sure that they are certain the relationship is Yah’s leading BEFORE consummating.
IF a couple want to reverse roles and have her lead they are at liberty to do that, provided they do it BEFORE they consummate.
IF one wants to serve Satan instead of Yah one is free to agree that BEFORE consummation.
Note that a Believer joining themselves to an unbeliever is an ABOMINATION in the sight of Yah and if you are guilty of this you should Divorce immediately.
BUT if the woman wants to serve Yah and he wants to serve Satan and they do NOT discuss it before consummation then it is his Covenant right to expect submission and if he beats her and torments her and forces her into prostitution and to use drugs and to enter into Satanic rites he is ENTITLED to because those are the terms of the Covenant – submit in EVERYTHING.
A way out?
Because of the lies and the lack of knowledge Yah DOES grant Grace in the event of humble and contrite supplication coupled to repentance but NOT always.
It depends on what YOU knew beforehand and your circumstances after consummation.
In particular, since the vast majority of women are NOT living with the man who took their Virginity there is a basic remedy.
Woman
If you are a woman -- contact the man who took your Virginity and ask him to take you under his covering and comply with the above terms as established at the time of consummation – preferably do this face to face, if not face to face then in writing and if not in writing, verbally BUT note that IF your attitude is wrong and you push him away your approach will count for nothing in the Court of Heaven.
IF you do it meekly and gently and he turns you away and refuses to do right by you, you then have a basis to ask Yah for Divorce and the sin will be on the head of the man.
IF you cannot locate the man, make every reasonable attempt to contact him and, if after that you have still not been able to contact him (assisted by appropriate prayers and worldly measures like Facebook, etc) you then have a basis for Divorce and to ask Yah for Grace and mercy.
If you are living with another man in Marriage or Covenant and he refuses to let you do this the sin is upon him – he must remember that he is in adultery and will be tormented in Hell for at least some time UNLESS the situation is cleaned up so it is in his interests for you to do this (contact the first man) in the hope that the first man will decline.
Once one has reached a point where Yah grants Divorce one is then in a position to pray the appropriate prayers see https://www.eti-ministries.org/essence-of-message-separation-man-woman
Once you have done that and cleaned up relative to ALL other sexual relationships you are then free to enter into Covenant with your present man OR, provided you do NOT have sex with him again, leave him – separate discussion but since you have been in adultery you are NOT bound to him in the Court of Heaven but be aware that if you have made Love regularly you will suffer massive trauma if you leave him for the wrong reasons. That does NOT necessarily mean that you should not leave him. I say again, if you are a Believer, and this teaching only applies to Believers, and he is an unbeliever then Father Yah EXPECTS you to leave.
Man
If you are a man you face the reverse situation, you come to realize that you took the Virginity of a woman and are responsible for her before Yah until death but she is NOT with you – contact her and offer to take her under your covering – you must do this with the RIGHT attitude.
IF she turns you away you have a basis for Divorce.
IF you cannot locate her make every reasonable effort through prayers, Facebook, etc and, if you fail, you have a basis to ask for mercy and a Divorce.
Once you have the Divorce from Yah apply the same prayers, etc set out in the document referenced above – cut One-Flesh Bonds, etc.
IF you (man) are living with another woman and she refuses to allow you to do this, the sin is upon her – she needs to understand that UNLESS you clean up you will spend time in Hell so, assuming she Loves you, she should support you in this
IF your present woman was NOT a Virgin when you took her you need her to go through the same process as outlined above so that she can obtain a Divorce in the Court of Heaven so she can marry you legally in the Court of Heaven.
IF you took the Virginity of a number of women you need to do this repeatedly with each of them.
After cleaning up
Once you have prayed the prayers set out in the document referenced above you can enter into a Covenant with your present man or woman either on the basis of the terms set out above or other terms you may agree.
This requires cutting of ALL other one flesh bonds, soul ties and other spiritual connections, renouncing vows and promises including inner vows and physically cutting ties as appropriate BEFORE you enter into a new Covenant – stop communicating with the past man / men or woman / women UNLESS by PRIOR agreement with your new partner with firm resolve on your part to keep ALL contact to strictly arm’s length as necessitated by particular situations.
Note that Love never dies but you can put it aside and NOT give it place – the Love for each person is in its own compartment, you can pray for the compartment to be sealed and never open it and also pray for all desire for that person to be closed off – see https://www.eti-ministries.org/essence-of-message-separation-man-woman
Note that if the woman is legally married to another man with a Divorce pending, even if she has separated and all the relevant prayers have been prayed, the forces of darkness will STILL secure a judgment for adultery so it is necessary for the woman to be legally Divorced BEFORE consummation.
To enter into a new Covenant you should take the bread and wine and pray over the Covenant meal and recite the agreed terms – see other documents referenced below.
Be aware that sexual Intercourse with ejaculation by the male in the Vagina of the female introduces a Covenant, albeit weaker than that resulting from the Virgin’s Blood unless reinforced by taking the Blood and wine of the Covenant of Yahooshua in which case the Covenant is of the same strength.
IF you do NOT agree explicit terms the terms set out above will apply.
Not about all the other stuff we hear in our world
Notice that Covenant is a tough, no nonsense CONTRACT.
It is possible for any man and any woman to be attracted and “fall in Love”.
It is possible for them to “fall out of Love”.
It is possible for them to have “good sex” even if they are from totally different backgrounds.
BUT if they do NOT take account of the standard Covenant terms, make them explicit in their search for a “life partner” and negotiate firmly BEFORE consummation they are likely to make a SERIOUS mistake.
The reason most Marriage fail is because they started out on the wrong foot with no knowledge of Covenant and, from day one they have been breaking the default terms at some level. In most cases the woman was NOT a physical or spiritual Virgin at consummation so everything is messed up and defiled.
There is ONLY one answer, clean up, do the necessary hard yards, pray the necessary prayers, have the TOUGH conversation and THEN consummate PROPERLY.
Added complexity – the Isaiah 4:1 factor
Isaiah chapter four verse 1 suggests that in this age there will be seven times more women than men in the body of true Believers. This is valid today in the body of Believers where there are indeed approximately seven women to every man.
However, Isaiah’s solution, of seven women Covenanting with one man is NOT possible in Western society, the women cannot and will not share and the men cannot cope – I know, I tried it at Father’s request and failed miserably and painfully until I asked Father to allow me to enter into a monogamous Covenant.
Reality therefore is that MOST believing women are better off single since there are simply NOT nearly sufficient genuine believing men to go round – see article https://www.eti-ministries.org/single-women-Believerrs-7-x-men Note that Believing women are permitted to covenant with other Believing women and have a sexual relationship with them see -- https://www.eti-ministries.org/essence-of-my-message-regarding-sex
That said it is vital to understand that if you are a man you are created to be able to Covenant with more than one woman so, unless you keep your eyes, mind and heart closely focused on your woman you WILL sooner or later find another woman who attracts you. At that point, you have a choice, if you have a monogamous Covenant, keep it or break it and break your woman and be judged.
It is ALSO important to understand that ANY man and ANY woman can be attracted and, if you use worldly criteria it will ALWAYS be possible to find another who appears to be “better” than your current partner – again, once you understand Covenant you should NOT allow such attractions or close working relationships to even begin to get out of hand.
If you treat your partner badly they are much more likely to fall for another, so comply with the Covenant and treat them well.
It is NOT about falling in Love, it IS about KEEPING Covenant.
What about Love?
What about Love you ask?
Well, the reason it is called “making Love” is because, IF a man and woman “make Love” to one another, especially in a caring, loving manner, a spiritual FORCE that we know as Love will come into existence. This spiritual force is designed to hold man and woman together and will NEVER die even in the afterlife but it CAN be murdered through continual strife, rebellion, violence, treachery, adultery, etc.
You do NOT enter into union BECAUSE you Love, you Love BECAUSE you are in union.
So care for and cherish one another, make Love regularly, considerately and skilfully and the risk of “falling in Love” with someone else will be greatly reduced.
The One-Flesh Bond the KEY component
Something else impacts the situation of man and woman
When a man or woman reaches a sexual climax or Orgasm a portion of their spirit is ejected from the Vagina in the woman and the Penis in the man
In both cases the sexual organs are at the end of a spiritual “duct” that connects the sexual organs to the spiritual heart, the core, the centre of the man and the woman thus, when a man ejaculates in the Vagina of a woman a portion of his spirit flows into her and up the duct in her spirit to attach to her heart, when she Orgasms over his Penis a portion of her spirit flows down over his Penis and up the corresponding duct to attach to his spiritual heart – this is the “One-Flesh Bond” and this is the reason why adultery is an abomination in the site of Yah – it is spiritual chaos, everyone joined to everyone else.
These spiritual ties do NOT, however, break, they are like infinitely elastic strands that join the man to the woman, the more frequently and the more passionately the man and woman make Love the stronger this bond becomes such that they begin to know each other’s thoughts and to be able to communicate without words, even if they are separated by half the world.
The One-Flesh Bond together with the Love Bond and the Covenant terms are ALL designed to ENSURE that the union succeeds provided you BOTH adhere to the terms of the Covenant.
If they fight and argue the bond will get weaker.
A weaker bond is formed in the event of male ejaculation in the mouth, Vulva or Anus of the woman (this is a betrothal bond) and an even weaker bond is formed in the event of ejaculation elsewhere on the body. Likewise if the woman Orgasms in contact with the man other than with his Penis in her Vagina, e.g. on his hand, a weaker bond is formed. If she Orgasms on his mouth a relatively strong bond is formed, less so that with Orgasm with the Penis in the Vagina.
When a man and woman who are already one masturbate apart from one another the spiritual “ejaculate” will flow down the existing tie.
This SAME bond is formed in casual and adulterous sex, sex with prostitutes and EVEN masturbation in phone sex or looking intensely at pictures or fantasizing about someone. The bond with masturbation is MUCH less than the bond with physical contact.
Bottom line?
ONLY have sex with your life partner!
Once the bond has been formed, specific prayers are required -- see https://www.eti-ministries.org/essence-of-message-separation-man-woman See also the other articles listed at the end of this article. There is much more material on the website.
The seven days of consummation
There is a spiritual window of seven days, seven being the number of completion and perfection, from the moment that the Covenant is first consummated – shedding of Blood with a Virgin or male ejaculation in the Vagina in the case of a truly Divorced woman or Widow.
During this window the couple should spend all their time together, make Love as frequently as possible and build their relationship in a caring and loving manner – a union based on such a foundation will be very strong and much more likely to last for life.
A one night stand or quickie has very little probability of success and, once the Covenant has been consummated and the seven days have elapsed you will NEVER again have that same opportunity to build a strong foundation.
Choosing a partner and marrying
Too late for most but perhaps NOT for our children.
I have concluded that the old fashioned approach of parents choosing partners for their children is the way to go BUT NOT in the rough fashion that some practise today.
Establish that the proposed couple come from the same background, have the same values and religious beliefs and moral standards, agree to this form of introduction, agree the Covenant terms based on what is set out above, have a party and consummate the union for a week OR consummate the union for a week and then have a party.
Whatever you do, do NOT let the couple get even vaguely drunk before they consummate, the important thing is the consummation NOT the party.
And do NOT keep them up late – as far as I am concerned a party BEFORE is OUT.
If the man and woman are mature and previously married then a sober discussion of what they stand for, what they want and who they are and formal agreement of Covenant terms is vital BEFORE consummation in the form of ejaculation by the man in the Vagina of the woman – up to that point there is NO Covenant although a betrothal bond WILL come into existence with male ejaculation in the mouth, Vulva or Anus and that is ALREADY creating a level of lock-in. There is already a death penalty for breaking a betrothal although there, too there is much Grace in this age.
Wedding ceremonies, because they deny Virginity and put a Pastor or Priest or law officer in the office of a pagan Priest are at some level pagan and cursed so be VERY careful who officiates and WHAT they say and what YOU say – vows AFTER consummation are FRAUDULENT and to be avoided UNLESS you recite EXACTLY what you previously agreed and you declare that this is what you are doing.
African tribal weddings and those for many other people groups are totally pagan and should, if at all possible, be avoided totally – if not be very prescriptive about what is said and done – better to offend your relatives than to curse your union – BUT honour your father and mother so NOT easy – ask nicely to be released from a ceremony and JUST have a party.
Overall, for a mature couple, better to hide away at home for a week and have a really solid consummation and then invite the family for a party later and, if you want the full legal picture arrange a form of legal wedding which is explicitly a blessing of what has already happened in order to fulfil the legal requirements for the woman to gain the man’s name.
Note that it IS Yah’s intention that the woman should take the man’s surname.
Further Articles Relating to this topic
Various articles on the website that have a bearing on this subject:
The Spiritual Interaction between Man and Woman in sexual union {husband and wife in Marriage} discusses this topic in some detail -- see https://www.eti-ministries.org/articles/article-view-page/articleid/530/2012-06-09-the-spiritual-interaction-between-man-and-woman-in-sexual-union-%7Bhusband-and-wife-in-Marriage%7D
What is this thing we call "Marriage"? -- A sexual life Covenant between a man and a woman” at https://www.eti-ministries.org/articles/article-view-page/articleid/256/2011-01-16-what-is-this-thing-we-call-Marriage-a-sexual-life-Covenant-between-a-man-and-a-woman
The One-Flesh Bond at https://www.eti-ministries.org/articles/article-view-page/articleid/298/2011-04-08-the-one-flesh-bond
The role of man and the role of woman
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/402/2012-07-11-The-role-of-man-and-the-role-of-woman.aspx
The Essence of my message regarding Prayer
https://www.eti-ministries.org/essence-of-message-regarding-prayer
Treachery is a Spiritual Force
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/tabid/93/smid/544/reftabid/124/Default.aspx?key=Treachery+is+a+Spiritual+Force
A contentious woman is as rottenness in the bones
http://www.end-time-issue-ministries.org/Articles/ArticleViewPage/tabid/124/ArticleId/363/2011-12-03-A-contentious-woman-is-as-rottenness-in-the-bones.aspx
Conclusion
There is considerable complexity with regard to Covenant union between men and women that needs to be understood in order to have a sustainable and successful life time Covenant union.
True Virginity is powerful and beautiful, young women should be gently and lovingly taught the truth about the beauty of what they have and they should be assisted to find a man to give this precious gift to who will value it and treasure it and treat her well the way Father Yah intended.
Dr James A Robertson
Spokesman and Emissary of Yah
End Time Issue Ministries
27 November 2021
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